To the Transphobic “Adviser”

Activist Omer Nahmany has something to say to a toddler behavior adviser who advised a mother to stop the support in her son’s feminine behavior, saying “there’s no room for feminine behavior [of boys] at school.”

Jazz Jennings. A strong and inspiring young woman.

Yesterday, in an article on Ynet by “toddler developmental adviser,” the adviser explains why children must not be allowed to wear whatever they want to kindergarten (feminine clothes for a boy, for example). He made the following statements:

“It turned out that the boy had excellent playing ability and he liked to dress up, but the only children who agreed to play with him were the girls. I suggested that the parents immediately stop the support of their son’s feminine behavior in school and gently, without pressure, support his masculine side. There should be no girls’ clothes at school, no makeup and other feminine behavior.”

“The fact that the media seeks for sensations makes the subject attractive and acts as if half the country is already transgender. This does not have to include us, parents of toddlers, or toddlers’ professionals. For the media, to be gay or lesbian has ceased to be interesting. Coming out? It became boring to us. What’s left? – trans. What will be the next attraction?”

The article and the reactions of some parts of society of the LGBT community in general and of the trans community in particular derives A. from ignorance, and B. from hatred.
And sometimes a combination of both – as we see in this transphobic article.

I’d like to say a few things to the “professional adviser:”

Being transgender is not “fashion,” it’s a person’s identity, a person who feels there’s no correlation between his sex and his gender. It’s true, recently we’ve been seeing a wonderful phenomenon of increasing the visibility of the trans community. Finally people see it and recognize its existence. Thousands of people who grew up with the feeling that they are alone in the world finally know they are not alone and that they can succeed in life without relation to their gender identity.

A large part of this community knows about their identity from a very young age. There is the wonderful example of Jazz, a girl born in the body of the boy. Her parents decided to support her choice to live according to her gender identity at a very early age. They let her dress in girl’s clothes in kindergarten or at school, and if she was teased they didn’t try to change their daughter, but supported her and strengthened her against the violence she experienced outside her home.

Jazz has grown to be a strong and inspiring young woman, and more importantly, her parents showed the world the true meaning of being a good parent – supporting your child, no matter what, and not trying to change him or her because of prejudice or social bias.

I advise every parent who asks himself how to raise a boy who wants to wear pink to school to see the film “I Am Jazz” where we see the incredible process Jazz is going through with her family.

And by the way, I’m sure that if your child is cisgender (there is correlation between their sex and their gender), they will grow up to be adults who love themselves and are at peace with themselves much more due to the fact that you allowed them to be who they really are.