When Sara-Rivka Davisdson first started thinking about her lesbian Jewish wedding, she was overwhelmed, and clueless. But taking it one step at a time, she planned amazing, spiritual, and memorable wedding.
In my mid-twenties, I came out as a lesbian. But the hardest part wasn’t even coming out: it was realizing my wedding would be different and therefore I was different. It took me a few years to come to terms with the fact that my wedding wouldn’t have a groom or any of the other stuff that goes along with heterosexual weddings.
A few months ago, my girlfriend of three years proposed. A couple of weeks after we got engaged, Chriss told me she was thinking about converting to Judaism. So as we started planning our wedding, we began attending synagogue together and Chriss enrolled in an Introduction to Judaism class. When we became full-fledged members of our synagogue and reserved the chapel for our wedding it dawned on me: I have no idea what a lesbian Jewish wedding would look like.
It’s not just how the ceremony will look: we need to figure out the dresses and bridal shower, too. Once Chriss popped the question and we each put a ring on it, my friends starting asking me “Is one of you going to where a suit?”
“Oh, no!” I would exclaim. “We both are going to wear dresses.”