“Coming out” as a parent of a gay child

Author: Alison Walsh
Source: Jewish News
Published: March 7, 2017

Alison Walsh is a Co-Ordinator for the parents’ group, “Parents of Jewish Gays and Lesbians” in the U.K., which helped her so much to “come out” to the world as a Jewish parent of a gay child

My elder son David was fifteen when he told us he was gay – not that he had actually intended to tell us quite then.

He said he was meeting someone but was evasive as to who this might be? I forced the issue never expecting to hear that this was some guy he had met on line through a gay website.

Alarm bells rung at the possible danger!

David must have guessed we might find the news of him being gay difficult as he kept repeating, “It’s OK Mum, there’s nothing wrong”.

My husband’s first thought was “I love my son. I don’t want to lose my relationship with him”.

As for me, I have an unfortunate knack of sometimes putting my big feet in things.

Whilst reeling from the shock, thankfully I avoided saying anything that my son would feel hurt or rejected by.

We both understood that what mattered most was for David to stay believing in himself and to know that our love and support was unconditional.

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